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[proofofconcept]

I'll try not to sprain something thinking about it

[trigeminalheadache]

Oh, shush.

What’s a good gift to give a Dominant you’re contracting with? She specified “something we can share.”

[proofofconcept]

It's probably the fault of this city that my first thought was a double-ended toy.

Food? Alcohol? What does she like, do I know her?

[trigeminalheadache]

My thoughts went there, too. I’m blaming the city.

According to your finder entry, you do. Illumination?

[proofofconcept]

Oh! Yeah I do. Honestly she might be amused by the toy idea tbh.

I feel like...she'd appreciate a variety? So I might even do one of each. A toy you could use together (not necessarily double ended because her anatomy isn't really the same), a bottle of something, and like some chocolate or something. Or like...something that's kind of unique that you like and can share with her as a sort of like, here's also a way to get to know me about it?

I feel like she'll enjoy basically anything mildly clever. This is probably less about the gift and more about what you do with the instruction. Like testing to see what you're like

[trigeminalheadache]

I feel like I have more options now instead of less.

She tried to tell me that I didn’t need to give her a gift, but she’s going to give me a collar. I was thinking maybe a crop or a flogger? Maybe a bottle of that wine I like from Crimson. Or maybe some coffee, small batch roasted? And hmm. A dessert I like? I don’t want to do too much, but I don’t want to do too little.

[proofofconcept]

I'd say pick two, one consumable and one not. A flogger and a dessert, or the wine and...I don't know, a leash for the collar. If you're into that.

[trigeminalheadache]

I’ve never really tried it. But I’d be lying if I said the idea of being on a leash didn’t turn me on.

So the leash and the wine? Do you know if she drinks?

[proofofconcept]

I want...to say she does? I can't remember what we drank when we met up. But even if she doesn't I feel like she'll appreciate the attempt. That's part of why a two-part gift is good. She might not have a liver but she has hands.

[trigeminalheadache]

God. The sound I just made at that last line.

Okay. So I think I have that settled. Now just… nerves until then.

[proofofconcept]

<3 I think you and she are a really good match. I'm excited to hear about this happening

[trigeminalheadache]

You think so? I hope. I feel like she’ll meet some of those needs or wants that I’ve been missing in the whole Dom/sub relationship. Don’t get me wrong, I wouldn’t say I hate any Doms I’ve had, but some, like my current one, just leave me unfulfilled.

[proofofconcept]

Yeah, I get that. I mean, I've only had one so far and it's not that Hope, like, leaves me unfulfilled at all but I can imagine a situation where I felt that way.

I'm letting mine with Hope expire. I'm gonna ask Steven if he wants me but if not I'm gonna be on my own for a few weeks.

[trigeminalheadache]

You really, really like him, don’t you?

I think he’d be a fool if he doesn’t take you.

[proofofconcept]

I kind of might be in love with him. I don't know.

[trigeminalheadache]

Why don’t you know? Are you just unsure, or is there something that makes you question it?

[proofofconcept]

The former I guess. I mean realistically I can't say I know him that well, for one thing. Also it feels really dumb to fall in love here?

[trigeminalheadache]

Then get to know him better. And it’s not dumb to fall in love here. Or anywhere. You fall in love, you fall in love. For me, it’s not something that can really be helped.

[proofofconcept]

Well, hopefully a contract will move us in that direction. I guess it's just...scary.

[trigeminalheadache]

And that’s okay. It’s scary, but you’re not going to let that stop you from asking, are you?

[proofofconcept]

Yeah, I'm not. I mean, I'm waiting until we're closer to the time. The current one expires 9/9 so I'm gonna ask maybe a week before that? That's long enough to plan for stuff, right?

[trigeminalheadache]

It should be, yeah. Time to discuss contract terms, talk through things. I don't know if he has another sub currently, but that would give time for him to discuss it with them. Figure out housing arrangements after that.

[proofofconcept]

He does. I've hung out with her a few times, she seems fun. I definitely wouldn't mind being her sister-sub, if he wants to keep her around too.

She suggested ambushing him with a threesome together already and she doesn't even know about any of this, so I think she wouldn't mind too much.

[trigeminalheadache]

It sounds like she's into both of you. Sounds like it'll make for a positive, enjoyable arrangement.

[proofofconcept]

Should I ask her first, actually? Is that weird? Do I leave that to him? What's the etiquette? I don't know if either of them cares about the etiquette, they've both been here less time than me.