Yeah no the consent is important. I did see the post, I don't really know what went down after it or as part of it.
I think for me it's that I already kind of feel like I'm worthless all the time so I need to be sure that my partner does not think that, or it's just reinforcing that shitty feeling. I need to know, in some part of my head, that this is happening out of like, mutual respect and pleasure
It better be happening out of mutual respect and pleasure. No one should make you feel worthless or shitty. And if I hear about it, I'm doing something about it, whatever their designation is. You are so wonderful, Quentin.
[It's kind of...cute? Touching? Something, that he was at least 50% talking about her, just using I statements and relating it to his own feelings to make it a little less pointed, and she went into protective mode anyway.]
To be fair no one has to MAKE me feel worthless. I just do. I'm working on it.
Just keep that same energy for yourself, please, okay?
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I think for me it's that I already kind of feel like I'm worthless all the time so I need to be sure that my partner does not think that, or it's just reinforcing that shitty feeling. I need to know, in some part of my head, that this is happening out of like, mutual respect and pleasure
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To be fair no one has to MAKE me feel worthless. I just do. I'm working on it.
Just keep that same energy for yourself, please, okay?
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I will. While I may accept some degradation and humiliation during sex, I don't typically go for it otherwise.
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I feel like it's probably good that I'm really firm about my degradation/humiliation boundary. I just don't do that shit, ever.