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[proofofconcept]

I don't think you should feel weird. I mean, consent play is basically the world's most popular kink. Like fifty percent of women or something and like a third of men have some kind of nonconsent fantasy

[trigeminalheadache]

I have a few different fantasies. Well, I guess the finder showed that. I just don't want to have people treat me like they did when Hope made that post.

[proofofconcept]

Yeah no the consent is important. I did see the post, I don't really know what went down after it or as part of it.

I think for me it's that I already kind of feel like I'm worthless all the time so I need to be sure that my partner does not think that, or it's just reinforcing that shitty feeling. I need to know, in some part of my head, that this is happening out of like, mutual respect and pleasure

[trigeminalheadache]

It better be happening out of mutual respect and pleasure. No one should make you feel worthless or shitty. And if I hear about it, I'm doing something about it, whatever their designation is. You are so wonderful, Quentin.

[proofofconcept]

[It's kind of...cute? Touching? Something, that he was at least 50% talking about her, just using I statements and relating it to his own feelings to make it a little less pointed, and she went into protective mode anyway.]

To be fair no one has to MAKE me feel worthless. I just do. I'm working on it.

Just keep that same energy for yourself, please, okay?

[trigeminalheadache]

Do I need to text you some daily affirmations, or something like that? "You ARE a good boy. You DO deserve good things."

I will. While I may accept some degradation and humiliation during sex, I don't typically go for it otherwise.

[proofofconcept]

No thanks. Affirmations just make me feel worse unless I'm like, mentally prepared to accept them.

I feel like it's probably good that I'm really firm about my degradation/humiliation boundary. I just don't do that shit, ever.